Mormon church says "pay up, or you won't see your family in heaven"

Here's an example of how the Mormon church uses the idea of forever families to manipulate their members.

The Mormon church teaches that to be a forever family you have to be sealed in the temple.

To be ~*woRtHy*~ of the temple you have to pass a worthiness interview.

When I was growing up, the only question in the worthiness interview that had a follow up meeting was the one about paying them money. It's "Tithing Settlement" in the cult jargon.

If you DON'T pay them money, YOU CAN'T BE WITH YOUR FAMILY FOREVER.

It's a cult.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

The Mormon church is an abusive cult.

- No mandatory reporting of sexual abuse.
- Members are taught to pay tithing money even if they can't feed their own children.
- No disavowal of white supremacists like Brigham Young. Racism, sexism, and bigotry.
- They teach people to ignore and suppress negative emotions rather than process them.
- They threaten you with eternal damnation and loss of your eternal family if you don't comply.
- Local bishops make you comply by threatening to take away your temple recommend. 

Yes, marital rape is a thing.

Yes, marital rape is a thing.

I did not enjoy my honeymoon. I had never learned to say no to sex. My freeze and fawn responses were alive and well.

Admitting that that was rape has taken me years.

 

I experienced marital rape because I was raised as a Mormon girl.

I was taught that women have to earn the fidelity of a husband and OWE him sex.

She is responsible for fulfilling his sexual desires.

Bishops are known to BLAME WIVES for a husband's infidelity.

I was never taught to say no.

What else would you expect. Mormonism was founded by rapist men who practiced predatory polygamy.

To be clear: when I say I experienced marital rape, that does not mean my husband is a rapist. I  married him because I think he is very good about consent and I felt comfortable with him.

It was not his fault that I felt obligated to say yes to sex on our honeymoon. 

I blame Mormon social pressure and cultural expectations about honeymoons for that. If I had not been brainwashed and groomed, I might have been able to clearly communicate the "no" I was feeling.